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8 Great Ways TO Support YOUl Student (alld Stay Sane!)
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2. understand why kids resist 4. Encourage and empower your student. enjoyab|e,

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. the best, Consultants Association), HECA (Higher Education

fear is often the reason. Fear of the unknown; fear Coiisiiiianis Association) and Coiie ewise

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up Some. ”n5etFl'”9 Subiects _ llke leavmg fllends relationship with their counselor. Many high Besides, if you know they are in 900d l1andSi W5
and fam'ly bel"nd' and '” many cases’ m°V'”9 to a schools do an excellentjob of advising students much easier to take a step back and let your kids
Strange new place far away from home‘ and are able to take the time to work closely with do what they need to do.

if your kids resistance has you Concainadi have each student. At large schools, where the caseload 5- Find your role.

an honest conversation with them. Ask them to for counselors "lake °ne'°n_°n? colfltiact ancl -i-aik with your kid about how they Wouid iika
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anxious about the admissions process do whatever one of their recommendation letters. few C°lle9e5: Staying Oiganlled l5 essentlal f0r
you can to keep your stress in check‘ one Coiiege i i meeting important deadlines. Here are some great
freshman told us that her parents were so stressed For fave" more °ne'°n'°ne Support’ Consldel usmg 0|'9anlZatl0“ “P5 from DaV€‘nt53

out during the pwcessi it made he’ even m°le apnvate College Founselclr who Wlll empower your Have our student create a se arate email address
anxious than she aiiaady was she Wished they kid to take the reins.They ve got the expertise and i Si is?’ aiiiiiiii scoiie e Keepii Sim ie is their
Couid have instead beenua caiini reassuring Voice” time to help students find colleges that fit, and the JU I g g . pi I  I. ., i
for hen skills to help them manage application deadlines name @. Encourage them to keep l0gInS and

and write compelling essays. Many parents find passwords to various college admissions portals in

Instead of buying in to the sensationalized news that having their high schoolers work with a one place. (Continued)

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